The truth is accountability and especially accountability partners can be a HUGE pain in the ass. But truthfully I know of very few of us including the greatest athletes in the world who have the discipline, presence of mind and sheer will power to keep themselves on track and accountable all the time – especially to those big audacious commitments.

We all slip now and then… but to keep us from slipping too far or repeating the same mistake twice we may need someone to call us on our shit when it shows up.

In this episode of Max Mind Set I address the issue of accountability and how without it we can easily fall off the commitment wagon.

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Too often we see only what stands between us and what we want and allow those things to stop us from moving forward or keep us from taking the first step.  The truth is we’re always going to encounter resistance in the pursuit of what we want – most of which with the right plan, enough determination and strength of will can be overcome.

The more subversive and covert stumbling block for countless otherwise great achievers is  the “internal resistance” they counter – but don’t have a clue it’s what’s slowing them down because it is on the unconscious level.

In the video I talk about the “end result” or outcome being like the leaves on a plant. Because they’re visible we get so focused on the leaves it’s all we pay any attention to….

“I must have great leaves.”

“I must have great leaves.”

“I must have great leaves.”

…and wind up ignoring what’s going on below the surface at the level of the roots.

But if the plant is going to flourish we must water and nurture the roots not the leaves.

If you have a values, integrity or worthiness conflict between what you want on the outside (the leaves) and what is going on inside (the roots) you will (not maybe) encounter overwhelming resistance, frustration and very likely failure.

The key is to fertilize, water, nurture the soil, and the roots. The only way to do that  is to take your sights off the goal and focus on your internal rather than external growth.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

You’ll often hear me say…

“All great achievements start first with the strength of WILL”

Have you ever wanted something so bad – that you were simply able to will it to happen?

Maybe it seemed impossible on the surface but somehow, through sheer grit, determination and WILL power you were able to overcome all the obstacles and resistance to get what you wanted?

On the other side that coin perhaps you set a goal for yourself – something you thought you really wanted and somewhere along the way you either lost interest or… it became too challenging or difficult to achieve and so you just – gave up?  Or quit?

Perhaps your WILL to win or succeed proved to be less format-able than the  opposition or resistance you encountered.

Since this Strength of WILL attribute seems to be of such great importance to your success let’s get an idea where it comes from and how to develop it.

You’ve heard me say this before and I’ll say it again because it warrants repeating, “You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want!” … Right?

The what becomes the target- the goal….  but here is the thing.

The WHAT is not the FUEL that will drive to to it – it’s the objective.  It’s not the juice that will push you over, under, around or through all the obstacles standing between your objective and you.

The juice, the FUEL, the catalyst for achieving that objective is the same thing that also feeds the muscle of your WILL.

It’s the WHY.

It’s the reason you want what you want in the first place!  Think about it….

You want a great physique… terrific – WHY?

You want a championship title… fantastic – WHY?

You want to be rich, healthy, happy… great – why, why, why?

It’s been said and it’s also been my experience that…

“if the WHY great enough- the HOW no longer matters.”

With a great enough WHY… your determination and Strength of WILL will not allow you to fail… period!

If however your WHY – the very reason you want what you want is superficial, inconsequential and weak than your WILL and ability to achieve what you want will also be weak and superficial.

Imagine your at the tail end of an intense leg workout or at the final 3 miles of a 26 mile marathon and your trying to muscle your way through with zero fuel left in your body. Can it be done physically? YES!

Can most people do it?  NO! 

WHY? Because they lack the WILL.

With a enough leverage however, in the form of  a compelling WHY you can WILL your way through almost anything, but it had better be a more compelling reason than just looking good on the beach.

Let’s face it… getting and staying rich, healthy and happy much less creating an outstanding, sexy and desirable body may require some serious WILL power, passion and determination to overcome some even more serious obstacles and resistance

Get clear on your compelling WHY.

Not the surface WHY – but rather the one way down in your core. The real WHY.

You find that and tap into it,  and you will have found the FUEL that will drive you to your what – the fuel that will strengthen the WILL needed to create massive success.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.”
Vincent T. Lombardi

Please share your thoughts and comments – I look forward to hearing from you.

An athlete, CEO, actor, or speaker can have all the outer game tools in his or her toolbox but if she doesn’t have the inner game needed to put those tools to work she will find herself frustrated, falling short of her full potential, and choking under pressure.

Imagine your inner game like the software in a computer. You can have the greatest hardware on the planet, a shiny new 32 inch monitor, slick new wireless keyboard and mouse, a really cool black tower with pretty blue lights, and a great workstation to put it all on but if you don’t have the proper software inside or if you have some old obsolete software to run the system and perform the tasks you want it, all that outer equipment or hardware won’t mean squat.

The inner game of confidence is your ability to control your focus, your state, and your emotions rather than letting them control or rule you.

It’s the ability to believe in yourself and your ability to succeed.

I’ll go one step further and say it’s the knowing that you will succeed.

The key for anyone looking to create more success in their lives whether in athletics, business, or even relationships is the ability to master their own inner game.

The empowering emotional state of being confident is triggered in most cases by an internal thought or vision. And so are the disempowering emotions of self doubt, frustration, fear, and disappointment.

Because of the way our brains process information every time that inner voice suggests something negative and you entertain that thought, your brain creates a picture or internal representation of that thought. If for example the pitcher facing that best hitter in the league were to say to himself, “don’t let this guy get a hit” and he entertained that thought his brain would immediately make a picture of the guy hitting it out of the park, dramatically increasing the likelihood of it happening.

So next time you’re in a potential choke situation and that little inner voice says something that could keep you from succeeding, simply acknowledge it and usurp its power by saying “thanks but no thanks! Then refocus and take action.

More strategies at Inner Game of Confidence

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In This video I point the finger at excuse makers and share why it must stop if they are ever going to achieve their goals and dreams.

Am I pointing at you or looking in the mirror… maybe both?

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Not all goals and desires are driven by the same thing. Some may be driven by your conscious desires or wants and likely go beyond your survival needs for food, shelter, a sense of security and, I dare say, sex.

Our conscious desires are the things we want, the things that add joy, pride, or fun to our lives. They are the things that better us or keep us from getting any worse off -the new car, new home, abundant bank account, and our soul mate.

On the other hand, one of the great motivators for many of us may be a distain, or dissatisfaction for what we are already experiencing in our life a painful relationship, lousy job, or the feeling of scarcity. Assuming you are just standing still – You are always either moving toward something you desire or moving away from something you no longer want in your life. Quite often, which direction you are moving is only a matter of perspective or how we frame it. The goal of finding a new job or pursuing a new career, for example, could be based on one of two perspectives:

1. You can be moving toward a new job with better pay and more benefits.
2. Or you can be moving away from a crappy, dead-end job with little pay and no bennies.

Sometimes you can even do both. You can simultaneously be moving toward something you want or desire and, at the same time, be moving away from something you fear or dislike. Too often, however you’re not moving at all.

So the question is are you living in the energy of scarcity while struggling to move away from something you can no longer tolerate in your life.

Or have you clearly identified what you do want – not just what you don’t and are you moving towards it with a sense of abundance and certainty.

The answer to that question will in many respects determine your outcome and how much you enjoy and appreciate the result.

What are your thoughts?

The Achievement Mentor

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