choosing confidence

To thrive in an often painful and unpredictable world confidence is a necessary element.

Confidence typically comes with age and experience…and is gained not given.  However, as you gradually grow older and live through more challenging experiences and circumstances there are a few things you can keep in mind to better develop your confidence before you need it.

“We gain strength, and courage, and CONFIDENCE by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face…
we must do that which we think we cannot.”

~Eleanor Roosevelt

Believe in Your Goals:
(Let’s start with the assumption that you have goals) Confidence is inspired by passion. Find what matters to you in a career, hobby or relationship and pursue it wholeheartedly. Your love and passion for the job, pastime or person will help you through even the darkest of times that are all but guaranteed to come.

2. Identify Your Strengths: Everyone has one, two or three things they’re excellent at.  you’ll find additional confidence in knowing what areas you’re naturally gifted to excel in. Identify what yours are and use them to better your life.  And never ever say “I’m just not good at anything” that’s a BULLSHIT excuse for giving up or not even trying.

3. Be Grateful: Confidence springs from the well of a thankful heart. Be grateful for the good people and pleasant circumstances already in your life. The joy they bring you will give you the confidence to make the changes you want and face the difficult parts of your journey with courage.

4. Accept Your Imperfections: If you’re human, you will make mistakes. You will fail, you will lose…now and then.  Accepting the inevitable pain that will come as a result of being human and vulnerable and realizing failure doesn’t define you, frees you to show more kindness and compassion to yourself and others.

5. Make Small Improvements: Recognizing and improving the weak spots in your character or relationships can be helped by making small changes over time. It’s near impossible to change everything at once (and you don’t need too) but gradually improving your weaknesses will deepen your confidence in yourself and your life skills.

Tom Terwilliger[socialshare style=”hc” title=”Share This Page” facebook=”yes” twitter=”yes” googleplus=”yes” color=”FAFAFA” bcolor=”DDDDDD”]

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